Grieving is natural

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It’s natural to grief , it can be so emotional ,you go through all sorts of difficulties from disbelief, guilt, shock and can disrupt your physical health which will result to sleepless nights, lack of appetite or even thinking straight. Reactions of more significant losses of loved ones can be of intense grief.

Life’s biggest challenge is coping with the loss of something you love or a family member in regards to death grieving becomes intense.

Any loss is personal to each one of us so we should not feel ashamed of how we feel or feel inappropriate to grieve for certain things.  If the loss is significant to you its normal to grieve but there are healthy ways to deal with the pain that is associated and can ease sadness as well help you come into terms with your loss and eventually move on with your life.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve because it’s an individual experience, how you do it can depend on many factors like your personality, coping style, life experience, faith and how significant the loss is or was to you.

This takes time, healing is gradual either forced, or in haste and there can be no schedule for grieving. Some may start feeling better in a week’s time or a month and others it’s measured in years. Patience is vital to allow the process to naturally open out.

 Its mythical ignoring grief thinking the pain will faster fade away instead worsening the situation rather be strong in it for it has a great significance by being frightened, sad or lonely.

You are not weak when you cry, wearing a brave face for the purpose of protecting loved ones will not help them and you too instead they need your sincere feelings, weeping is a normal response to sadness.

The process of dealing with grieving      

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It’s an inevitable part of life to grieve a loss and there are ways to help deal with the pain, picking up the pieces and move on with life eventually. 

Always remember:-

• Your pain acknowledgement.
• Different unexpected emotions triggered by grief be accepted.
• To understand that grieving will be a unique process.
• Seek one on one support from people who love you or care for you.
• Take care of yourself physically to support you emotionally.
• Differentiate between depression and grief.

Grief stages

-Bargaining.

-Acceptance.

-Anger.

-Depression.

-Denial.

It may help to know your reaction is natural, you will heal in due time if you are experiencing the above emotions in regards to a loss. Everyone who grieves however doesn’t go through the stages and its ok though. Some people without going through these stages resolve their grief.

Emotional and physical grief symptoms

We need to remember that anything we go through in the early stages of grief is normal .We may experience emotional symptoms like sadness, disbelief, anger, shock, fear and guilt. At the same time physical such as fatigue, nausea, lowered immunity, weight loss or gain, aches and pains this needs support from friends and close family members most importantly face to face. 

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Under normal circumstances you may feel uncomfortable to talk about your feelings but it’s important to tackle them when you are grieving. 

The grief load is easier to carry when you share however not every time you talk about your loss.

People, who care about you can be of comfort too being around you, do not isolate yourself. This is the time to turn to family members and friends and lean on them even taking pride in being strong ad self-sufficient.

Instead of avoiding them, draw them closer spend time together and accept the assistance they can offer.It’s never too late to build new friendships too if you feel you have no one you can hang out with or connect with regularly.

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Awkward feelings from some people trying to comfort you when grieving is acceptable because it can be confusing to grief especially if never experienced such before. They may be doing wrong things because they are not sure how to comfort you.

Take care of your physical health the body and the mind is connected, when you are physically fit you can cope very well emotionally,get enough sleep and eat right. Never feel embarrassed or judgmental on how you feel. That could be all for now but not the end.

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